by R. Morgan Griffin
If there’s one thing that almost every guy is an
expert at, it’s masturbation. After years of extensive, hands-on
experience, you think you know everything there is to know. But
according to the experts, maybe you don’t. Here are some that may
surprise you.
1. Masturbation doesn’t have the health benefits that sex does.
“It
appears that not all orgasms are created equally,” says Tobias S.
Köhler, MD, MPH, an associate professor at Southern Illinois University
School of Medicine in Springfield.
Study after study shows that
intercourse has all sorts of benefits for men — for your blood pressure,
heart and prostatehealth, pain, and more. You’d think that masturbation
would, too. But it doesn’t.
Why would it make a difference
whether you ejaculate during sex or on your own? No one’s sure. But your
body seems to respond differently. Even the makeup of semen is
different if you masturbate instead of having sex.
Still, does it
really matter? Have you honestly been masturbating all these years only
because you wanted to boost your prostate health? Didn’t think so.
2. Masturbation is not risk-free.
Sure,
it’s low-risk. It’s the safest form of sex possible. No one ever caught
an STD from himself or made himselfpregnant. But like other low-risk
activities (chewing, walking), it still has some risks.
Frequent
or rough masturbation can cause minor skin irritation. Forcefully
bending an erect penis can rupture the chambers that fill with blood, a
rare but gruesome condition called penile fracture.
Köhler has
seen guys with it after vigorous masturbation. “Afterward, the penis
looks like an eggplant,” he says. “It’s purple and swollen.” Most men
need surgery to repair it.
3. There’s no “normal” amount of masturbation.
Guys
can get hung up on whether they masturbate too much. But it’s not how
many times you masturbate in a week (or day) that really matters, says
Logan Levkoff, PhD, a sexologist and sex educator. It’s how it fits into
your life.
If you masturbate many times a day and have a
healthy, satisfying life, good for you. But if you masturbate many times
a day and you’re missing work or giving up on sex with your partner
because of it, consider seeing a sex therapist.
Even then,
there’s nothing specific about masturbation that’s the problem.
Compulsive masturbation is like any behavior that disrupts your life —
whether it’s compulsively playing poker or buying Beanie Babies on eBay.
4. Masturbating doesn’t reflect on your relationship.
Levkoff says the most damaging myth about male masturbation is that it’s a sign something is wrong in your relationship.
The
fact is that most guys masturbate. They masturbate if they’re single,
in a bad relationship, or in a great relationship. It’s just something
they do that has nothing to do with their partners.
Masturbation
isn’t only about sex, Levkoff says. For many, it’s a routine way of
relieving stress, clearing your head before work, or going to sleep.
5. Masturbation is almost certainly good for your sex life.
Masturbation
can help your sex life, since it’s how guys learn what they like during
sex. “I think women would be more satisfied sexually in their
relationships if they masturbated as much as men do,” Levkoff says.
Are
there exceptions? Some guys do get so hooked on a certain amount of
pressure during masturbation or the stimulation of porn that they can’t
perform with a partner, says Ian Kerner, PhD, a sex therapist and author
of She Comes First.
Still, Kerner says those guys are the
exception. “For the vast majority of men, masturbation is a healthy
thing,” he says. “I’m usually more concerned about a guy who’s stopped
masturbating — which can be a sign of anxiety or health problems — than a
guy who’s doing it regularly.”
-the trent
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